project orgasm: five

there is nothing appealing (to me)
about someone saying
awkwardly while looking to the side
"so, um, do you want me to...?"
and looking at my cunt.
no, i don't
i really really don't.

as a general rule, i don't like receiving oral sex
but, i've made exceptions for the guys that want to do it
like really want to do it
like, will rip my panties off and hold me down and make me let them do it.
and in such exceptional circumstances, i've had exceptional orgasms.
truly, truly exceptional orgasms.

five (if you haven't guessed already) is the bucking on your tongue kind,
the grinding on your mouth kind
the sliding on your fingers,
your face between my thighs,
wet, kissy, oral sex kind

there's this idea in popular culture that we females (we of the delicate sex, of the moody vagina, the coy clitoris, and the elusive g-spot) can only orgasm when everything is "just right." there's this mythology that the female orgasm is something fickle, that can be lost because of the wrong lighting or the time of day, or the noise of the street. i won't argue this might be the experience of many, but i will say that i have never felt that way about my own ecstasies except when it comes to having an oralsexgasm (yes, i just made that up). though in this case, it isn't about the lighting or the time of day, it's about enthusiasm, or the lack thereof.

in those rare instances where i've had an enthusiastic partner, lookout! these orgasms can be mindblowing. because they require another person (i'm not that flexible), i get to share them. i get the sense of being watched, but this time, i'm being watched from down there.  there's something about the vulnerability of this that makes me feel all kinds of submissive little girl feelings. it's hard for me to have someone down there, in the pink of it, watching. but because it's hard, uncomfortable, requires vulnerability and opening, it's right there in that love/hate territory that leads to the best sort of fulfillment.

cumming from oral sex feels like nothing else. it's clitoral, like a vibrator orgasm, but it's not hot and vibrating. it's wet. it's slow. it's circular with just the perfect amount of pressure. frankly, it's fantastic! i have cum this way from just a tongue swirling on my clitty, and i have cum this way with the addition of fingers in my ass and cunt (and oh! how i came, but that story is for another day). strangely, i don't think i've ever orgasmed more than once from oral sex, but i think that's because of the feelings of vulnerability that i have (wanting it to be over, even when it's awesome. wanting to close my legs, even when i'm still twitching) more than a physical impossibility.

it's commonly said that "most women" prefer to orgasm this way (or that most women can only orgasm this way with a partner). i have the exact opposite experience, but what about you? can you cum from oral sex? is it your preferred way to orgasm with a partner? what does the orgasm feel like? do you mind if it's performed as "a favor?" spill it, ladies, in the comments section.

project orgasm: four

four is the pussy-penetration kind.
this is the kind i always have with a partner (as opposed to the first two, which i always have alone, and the third kind which i can have solo or duo). being with someone makes this sort of orgasm extra special to me because i love to be watched, most especially when i'm cumming. there is something about the feeling of eyes on me that drives me up the wall.

i pretty much have to be on top for this one*, facing my partner. this position used to bother me--i always wanted to do it doggy style--but once i realized that i could orgasm, i stopped caring if my boobs bounce too much, or if i feel too "in control." now i just enjoy the ride.

like touching myself, i can feel this orgasm coming, and sort of time it. i get past a certain point, and it only takes a handful of well-timed lap-grinds to make it happen.

this orgasm has almost nothing to do with in-n-out thrusting
this has everything to do with my pussy grinding on your pubic bone.
it's the offspring of my pillow-humping and finger-flicking orgasms
with some delicious, hot, throbby hardness inside me
and hearing my partner moan.

multiples? when can't i have multiples?
i can cum as many times as you want
as long as you can take me pressing
wiggling
grinding
rubbing
sliding
straining
and occasionally, bouncing
on your lap.

the actual feeling of the orgasm is a little bit clenchy, and a little bit clitty
i'd put these right there with the digital orgasm on the intensity scale.
but these orgasms get high marks on the pleasure scale
because i get to share them
with you

anecdotal research says that these are less common, but i wonder if that's true for my readers? can you orgasm when you get your pussy fucked? in what position? do you need additional stimulation (vibrator, fingers) or does the lap grind work for you?

ahem---excuse me while i go beg mark to fuck me :)


* there was the anomalous time that i came in the missionary position, but i've never been able to replicate it. notably, i was in my girlhood trundle bed with my parents downstairs, sneaking a quickie in with my boyfriend, so maybe the "getting caught" aspect was more at play than the position itself.

project orgasm: three

touching myself takes number three.
i can do this laying on my back, my stomach, or sitting in a chair.
this is similar to the vibration kind of orgasm, but less intense.
and it takes longer, usually waaay longer.

this is my preferred technique when i'm talking on the phone
or reading at the computer.

the key for this to work is that i have to be wet already.
i mean really wet.
(i told you it takes a long time).
if i'm not wet enough that i'm creaming my panties (like, leaking out of my cunt, girljuice sticking to the tops of my thighs) i really can't get off this way.
if i'm not wet enough, it just hurts.
i've had mild success using spit (my own) to get started
or lube
but mostly, i just have to be very, very aroused already.

i reach down. unlike with a vibrator, i don't hold my outer lips apart, i just leave everything how it is, and press my right index and middle fingers together. then i rub in a circle (i favor counterclockwise, but either direction will work).

these orgasms hit slower. what i mean is, i can feel when i'm close to cumming, and either keep going or stop. i can hold myself 10 seconds from cumming pretty easily with this method (by contrast, with pillow humping i have to keep going or just writhe in frustration and give up; and with vibration, i can't seem to stop myself close enough to orgasm, but far enough to actually NOT cum). i can have multiples this way, but i have to be careful: i seem to rub too hard after i've had one orgasm, and then i'm sore for days afterward. (this just recently happened, so i'm particularly sensitive to it).

on a scale of intensiveness, i'd put these right in the middle of the pillow humping and the vibration  orgasms. i don't get that hot, crazy, centered feeling of the vibrator, but the orgasm is much more direct than the humping kind.

i like this method for it's sensuality. i am in touch with my body: i can actually feel how wet i am, how swollen my clit is, how hot my pussy is, and all the little throbs that happen as i orgasm. it's very organic, and it's nice because it doesn't require anything i don't always have with me (fingers).

let's keep going, and you tell me: can you orgasm from your fingers? what is your favorite technique? and how intense are the resulting contractions?

project orgasm: two

two is the buzzy, clitoral vibration kind.
i lay on my back, spread myself wide open with my fingers.
knees bent, feet flat (although,with a vibrator, i can cum in any position except for standing up*)

i favor vibrations on the underside of my clit, pressing up.
or on the left.
sometimes i move in circles.


this is the back-arching kind, the crazy screaming out loud kind, the holy-hell-it-hurts-and-i-can't-stop kind.
this is a guaranteed multiple.

cumming from vibratory clitoral stimulation is very focused. whereas the pillow-humping kind has a general, clenching, muscular burnout feeling, this one's more like there's a hot point flicking in rapid fire between my legs. after the first one, i can feel my pulse in my pussy. blood swells around my clit, puffing it up, swelling the pink skin around it up. soon i'm throbbing, moving, gasping.

this sort of orgasm is a really, really intense driving feeling. i can feel each orgasm build, break, build, break and build. each time one breaks, it is more intense, hotter, than the one before. if i have more than two or three of these, eventually my clit sort of numbs out doesn't respond. it is like it adjusts to the vibrations, and they no longer stimulate. but i've learned that if i keep going after this burnout feeling, i have the even bigger orgasms.

the big ones take full-body engagement. my back arches so hard, i lift my ass off the bed. my legs twitch, especially the little muscles that run on the inside of my thighs. (this is probably why i can't, and shouldn't, orgasm standing up). my stomach muscles, like my lower abdominals, even get involved and start fluttering. i've had eyelids, lips, and cheeks go into mini-spasms that i can't control. this is sort of the ultimate in neuro-muscular sensational overload. i am always in awe of how buzzy stimulation directed at an area the size of a pea can have such an effect on my whole body.

soooo, this has to be one of the more "normal" masturbation techniques, and i think it's pretty common (at least, for women) to have multiples this way, so tell me what you feel when you cum with a vibrator!


*11/11/09 I used the showerhead last night, and didn't want to lay in the tub, and let me tell you: I came standing up! I came a LOT. giggle!

project orgasm

hello readers of little girl's submission,


i have an idea. i've been really missing the way that comments on bdsm journals used to be a conversation of their own. i think part of the decline in comment conversations is that almost everyone uses a reader now to capture all their favorite sites. i am guilty of this, too. while this is super convenient, it has made me miss the good old days when i had all my favorite urls memorized. i would type them in and hit "return" with anticipation, and squeal with delight when i saw that someone had updated.

these days, i open my reader. i still squeal with delight, but let's just say, i'm as guilty as anyone of reading in the boring old google reader, and not visiting the lovely jewels my favorite writers have created to house their words.

so, i'm starting a series of posts about the feeling of different kinds of orgasms. i've always wondered if people feel similar sensations from similar stimulation, or if we're as individually wired as i suspect. so i'm doing my best to categorize and describe the six distinctive kinds of cummings that i have either felt, or in some cases, have heard about. and i'd really like it if you would leave me your comments about what you feel that is similar or different. i'm going to give this a week, and see if you all participate, and if not, we'll know my experiement has been a failure. so don't be shy (i permit anonymous comments if you are) and participate in project orgasm! together, we'll create a juicy database of the feelings of la petit mort.

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the first one is the oldest, most familiar way.
i squish a pillow in half.
part knees, crawl on top, clench thighs together.
the middle of the pillow fold presses into my cunt. sometimes i press my hands behind the fold to add hardness. i squeeze my ass cheeks together, rubbing.
friction.
hot.
muscles tensing.
i lean forward, push harderfastermore.
my cunt gets hotter, my wetness spreads.
it almost feels like a workout, i have to press my pelvis so tightly, clench my ass. it hurts, makes me gasp. my muscles burn, and eventually, i cum.

this orgasm is very muscular. it comes through my ass muscles and my thighs, it is almost like burnout from lifting weights. it relies on tiredness, soreness, surrender. i can't keep humping like this forever. 

i can have multiples this way, but there's a lot of heavy breathing. my pussy gets wet, but there's no possibility of penetration. i can cum this way fully clothed. i just need to work my ass and have something to grind against. i could probably cum like this on someone's lap, if they let me (now, there's a thought!)

cumming this way used to be a ritual. it scratched my itch, helped me sleep. i've been using pillows like this (and for a spell, a giant stuffed mickey mouse) since i was 8 or so.

so, have any of you humped pillows or stuffed animals or knees or fists, and if so, what did the orgasm feel like? ladies, gentlemen, tell me what it felt like (or grab a pillow and give it a try, then report back!)